Have you ever found yourself in a continuous cycle? The same situations keep repeating themselves, and you don’t really understand why. Our failure to declare what it is that we want, unfortunately requires us to learn over and over what it is that we do NOT want before we finally figure it out. Hopefully, otherwise your life is an endless loop stuck on repeat.
So, how do we break the cycle? I’m really not sure… it keeps repeating for me, but I am beginning to think that in the same way that I have set virtues for myself to live by, I need a list of values. To establish our very own personal belief systems. What it is that one stands for, what is our own personal philosophy on life? What is, and what is not, important in life?
The Lovers is apart of the Fool’s journey, that reflects a point in time where we have to assess the alignment of our choices, and our values. Are they lining up? The Lovers not only represents love, union, and relationships, but also represents choices on a grand scale.
Many a time, within the course of The Lovers, a dilemma will be presented demanding an action or decision, and you will want to decipher the best way to proceed or make the right choice. At this time, these choices are incredibly important and significant so it is essential that you choose the right path. So what is the right path? How do we determine this?
What we learn the hard way is, the easy option will always be available, but we have to ask ourselves if that is really the right path for ourselves in the long run. I’ve have said this before, instant gratification reaps no long term rewards. Easier said than done.
SO, if you find yourself at a moral crossroads, one must recognize their morals before being able to take the high ground, whilst considering all the consequences before acting.
“Unlike the Fool’s choice which has no wrong answer, the choice of the Lovers is very much right or wrong because one of those options will almost certainly take you down a negative path. Thus, it is wise to seek higher guidance before making your final decision. You must be completely honest with yourself in the situation. Do not take things strictly on face value but deeply examine your motives, your feelings, your options and your personal values” (Biddy Tarot).
As I touched on lightly before, now is a time for cautious decision making based upon the consideration of all the consequences of every choice. It takes a greater level of self awareness; when we do know what we want, we can act with patience and precision.
The questions we all have to start asking ourselves are more important now than ever, because now, it really does matter. What do I want? What do I value? What do I want to stand for? What are my core beliefs? These are things we have to know before we can successfully enter into any kind of relationship.
So like my Virtuous Development post, now I am at the place where I have to do some Value Development. It’s our values that hold up our virtues and it’s clear to me what kind of person I want to be, but I have yet to establish what kind of relationships I want to be apart of, apparently I have not valued myself enough to declare them. So I will keep raising my standards until I know exactly what it is that is going to feel good, in the very very end.
You can expect my next post to be a list of values, fleshed out and carefully determined. Until then, watch your step. ❤