What moves you? Where do your passions lie? What brings you endless joy? What is important to you in this life? These are the questions to ponder before you can develop personal values. They don’t have to be big answers. Some people value the littlest things, and this makes everyday feel incredibly rewarding.
If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy, if a blade of grass springing up in the fields has the power to move you, if the simple things in nature have a message you understand, Rejoice, for your soul is alive. -Eleanora Duse
It’s strange how we can appreciate every little thing and value all that life has to offer, but then when it comes to how we value ourselves our standards can completely fall off the bandwagon when we let others opinions effect the way we value ourselves.
This I know is true for many people. Maybe you got picked last, or your friends ditched you, or your ex told you they never really loved you, or you were abandoned by a parent, or you put yourself out there only to be rejected over and over again, all of these experiences we go through can leave one feeling worthless. But how come we let others determine our worth? Who decides? I would think that there is only one person’s opinion that really matters, because it’s the opinion you have to carry with you for your entire life. These people come and go, but you will always be stuck with you, so why not hold yourself up higher?
How do you forget the hurtful things they’ve done and said? How do you overcome the memories that ring in your ear more strongly every time it happens again? You should know it will happen again, someone is bound to not understand your significance in this world, will you believe them? Why?
If you knew that the each time you let their beliefs sway your own, another situation would present itself to challenge you not to, would you shift your perspective?
Instead of feeling worthless, maybe you should feel blessed, because rejection can be the ultimate protection. I’ll admit, getting picked last sucks, I know, I was that kid, but so what if my eye-hand coordination is seriously lacking, it doesn’t make me lesser of a person. I have other skills that I excel at. If your friends ditch you, you’re not a loser, they’re just obviously not your friends, and friends that you certainly don’t need in your life. If your ex tells you they never loved you, you aren’t of value because they couldn’t hold you in their heart, it just means their heart was too small to ever let you in. If your parent never wanted you, it doesn’t mean that you weren’t good enough to be wanted, it means they weren’t capable of giving you the love and attention that you deserved. If you put yourself out into the world, for love, for friends, for work, and you keep getting rejected, it isn’t because you aren’t worth it, it’s because you haven’t found the place where you will be most appreciated.
This is the shift we have to bring ourselves to an awareness of if we are going to really live life to it’s fullest. No one will bring you down when you hold yourself up. When you see all of the these blows as steps, you will rise above the pain and see that there is always a blessing in disguise. You don’t need these people in your life, so say “Fuck you, and thank you”.